Disclaimer: All the characters appearing in this work are fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental. 😀 😛
It was his first day at Degree College, where a bunch of freakish guys and young good-looking gals were waiting at the common visitor’s room for their names to be called by the attendant, who is a fatty middle-aged man. Since the Principle of the College wasn’t able to reach there by the exact scheduled time for admission procedures, most of them start aiming simply here and there for long. Some of them had a keen look on their mobile phones for texting or browsing related activities and parents besides them was eagerly waiting for the arrival of the Head of the Institute. Few of the young-looking teenage guys were in hurry for making contacts with the new beautiful girls, with whom they are gonna have some progressive changes at –least in the days coming by the way. 😉 Suddenly our hero, Ram came into the scene with a convenient attitude as he knows that, most of them sitting out there were in an inclement mood. He couldn’t resist his mischievous and rough character, so that he starts shouting at the attendant for delay in starting the admission procedures. It was during that instant, one among the guardian (who can’t control his temper) of a gal sitting near to him rises ahead and joined with this guy for the compatible objections against the authority. Actually, if that condition worsens further, definitely Ram would go for the lick against that fatty college staff. But the moment when he saw that gal, who sat behind her Papa leads to the fall of a lovely ripple on his heart. Even though, the ratty talks goes in between her dad and the staff member, Ram was in a forlorn situation where he can’t spell or take a step ahead in-front of her. It was his first ablaze crush met by him on a gal. She looks to be having a good attitude, character and the most important reason for his crush over her was the silence and shyness of that beautiful angel itself. Finally, the Principle came after a prolonged intricate conditions, which was going over there. Without much delay, they begins the admission related procedures and the mental destruction happens for Ram became highly obscene after sometime. He was INSANE enough for being a part of her in his whole life within that short span of time. The most interesting interjection was his instructional make-ups of life regarding that angel, who is still personally unknown for him. But his determination and thoughts about her leads up to the level of getting married and he interjects those dreams while thinking about her dad. Anyway, both of them earned their confirmation pass for the administration related department course on that same day and left with a symbolic return to their new college.
The innovative academic year begins within 2 weeks by the end of admission related procedures. It was by the 17th day of our hero’s day at college, he had an adjustable talk with our heroine when she was on her way back to home. He was a regular follower of her by the end of evening class sessions though.
He: “Hello! I guess you have completed your schooling at Bhavans( a prominent school in Kerala), uh? 😛 (Just to have a start-up talk with her, he begins with that musty query)
She: Nope, I was a Choician (Another school from Kerala).
He: Oho! Okay. I had seen a junior gal of your appearance at Bhavans during my +2 grade level and just mentioned it with you. 😛 😀 Anyway, I’m Ram from Kochi. And you?
She: I’m Namitha from Kochi itself. May I ask you a query, which has a prominent relevance in the current situation?
He: Eh? Excuse me! I didn’t get you. What do you mean?
She: Are you kidding me? I know what kind of relationship you are actually expecting from me.
She: Hey! Do you want to date me?
He: I……! I’m……… (He can’t even have a normal breath after hearing this soaked response from her)
She: Hey, I’m seriously asking you! Do you have any sort of mentality like that to me?
He: Umhhh…! Shall we have a cup of tea from the canteen please?
She: Haha! Why not? Come on dude! 😀
[They came to college canteen and she ordered 2 cups of tea, since Ram was in dreary mood to speak something.]
She: Hey Ram! You didn’t tell me. I don’t have enough time to spare out here. It’s already late now. I have to go back to home soon.
He: Okay! I’m also not interested in continuing this rubbish flirting talks in between us. In fact, I’m truly in love with you, Namitha. I know each and everything about you by observing you for all these days and couldn’t resist myself being without you in my life. This is not just an infatuation, but something which can be comparable with a true love. Trust me dear. 🙂
She: I can understand your feelings, dude! But this is all because of your present age, Ram. Let me think about it in detail and will give you my response as soon as possible. Don’t feel bad even if my response is a negative one for you. Okay?
He: Yeah, take your-own time, Namitha. Don’t hesitate to tell me, even if the response is a negative one.
She: Yeah, sure!
The twist that happens later on their story was, she gives a positive response to our hero and he dated her for the whole 3 years of college life. Later, they got married too. It was after the marriage, some fluctuations stares at their life as some sort of inferiority complexes and voids on their gregarious conditions. And someway, it finally ends up with a divorce though.
“We will not able to love or care about anymore all because of the reason that, our personalities and nature are extremely indifferent to each other”, a wacky explanation from both of them.
This is one among the major harsh fact for those who shifts their dating to a relationship or marriage scheme. This is just a tale, which reveals the rustles aspects in a dating, which gets converted to a life-time relationships. I couldn’t say that, love marriage is always a failure. Exceptions would be there, but still I have seen a number of my unexpected pals who fell into “Dating–>Marriage” relationship and finally ended up with a break-up (Divorce). The same aspects are occurring in arranged marriages too. But it will be in a different way through reputation, wealth, vocation and all of a family. As the person is supposed to marry a gal will be chosen by his beloved parents or relatives on the basis of culture, background or profession only. Hence, there would occur some mismatches which is a quite natural problem that has to be healed up in arranged marriage nominal.
According to my personal views, whether it’s love or arranged marriage; one must care, support and love his/her partner in the whole-life time with all the incrustations in WEALTH. Wealth in life does not means money or some happy moments only. Life is such a wide journey, where every-one have/has to face some variety of challenges which includes sorrows and irrelevant solvable problems though. What actually matters in a relationship are mutual understandings, adjustments, faith and mutual-trust on each-other. But today, a marriage is something which can be comparable with an INCOMPLETE ungainliness. We are living in a highly individualistic society, where couples are thrown in each other’s company far rather than having close contacts in between them. So a change is must for the better partnership for both these genders in a common relationship.But still, if our instincts is unable to tell us whom would be the right partner, then what could be the situation? We don’t want to leave it to chance. So we try to ensure that the partner is suitable. That’s why we usually try to choose someone with the same interests similar to us, someone from a similar background, someone with the same values, someone with whom have a lot on common. Will that be an apt choice? Anyway, let me conclude this topic with a brilliant quote about ‘RELATIONSHIP’ by one among the world-renowned romantic fiction writer. 🙂
“Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. If the dispositions of the parties are ever so well-known to each other or ever so similar beforehand, it does not advance their felicity in the least. They always continue to grow sufficiently unlike afterwards to have their share of vexation; and it is better to know as little as possible of the defects of the person with whom you are to pass your life.”
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