Unaccustomed Relationship

Disclaimer: All the characters appearing in this work are fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental. 😀 😛

It was his first day at Degree College, where a bunch of freakish guys and young good-looking gals were waiting at the common visitor’s room for their names to be called by the attendant, who is a fatty middle-aged man. Since the Principle of the College wasn’t able to reach there by the exact scheduled time for admission procedures, most of them start aiming simply here and there for long. Some of them had a keen look on their mobile phones for texting or browsing related activities and parents besides them was eagerly waiting for the arrival of the Head of the Institute. Few of the young-looking teenage guys were in hurry for making contacts with the new beautiful girls, with whom they are gonna have some progressive changes at –least in the days coming by the way. 😉 Suddenly our hero, Ram came into the scene with a convenient attitude as he knows that, most of them sitting out there were in an inclement mood. He couldn’t resist his mischievous and rough character, so that he starts shouting at the attendant for delay in starting the admission procedures. It was during that instant, one among the guardian (who can’t control his temper) of a gal sitting near to him rises ahead and joined with this guy for the compatible objections against the authority. Actually, if that condition worsens further, definitely Ram would go for the lick against that fatty college staff. But the moment when he saw that gal, who sat behind her Papa leads to the fall of a lovely ripple on his heart. Even though, the ratty talks goes in between her dad and the staff member, Ram was in a forlorn situation where he can’t spell or take a step ahead in-front of her. It was his first ablaze crush met by him on a gal. She looks to be having a good attitude, character and the most important reason for his crush over her was the silence and shyness of that beautiful angel itself. Finally, the Principle came after a prolonged intricate conditions, which was going over there. Without much delay, they begins the admission related procedures and the mental destruction happens for Ram became highly obscene after sometime. He was INSANE enough for being a part of her in his whole life within that short span of time. The most interesting interjection was his instructional make-ups of life regarding that angel, who is still personally unknown for him. But his determination and thoughts about her leads up to the level of getting married and he interjects those dreams while thinking about her dad. Anyway, both of them earned their confirmation pass for the administration related department course on that same day and left with a symbolic return to their new college.


The innovative academic year begins within 2 weeks by the end of admission related procedures. It was by the 17th day of our hero’s day at college, he had an adjustable talk with our heroine when she was on her way back to home. He was a regular follower of her by the end of evening class sessions though.

He: “Hello! I guess you have completed your schooling at Bhavans( a prominent school in Kerala), uh? 😛 (Just to have a start-up talk with her, he begins with that musty query)

She: Nope, I was a Choician (Another school from Kerala).

He: Oho! Okay. I had seen a junior gal of your appearance at Bhavans during my +2 grade level and just mentioned it with you. 😛 😀 Anyway, I’m Ram from Kochi. And you?


She: I’m Namitha from Kochi itself. May I ask you a query, which has a prominent relevance in the current situation?

He: Eh? Excuse me! I didn’t get you. What do you mean?

She: Are you kidding me? I know what kind of relationship you are actually expecting from me.

He: Means?

She: Hey! Do you want to date me?

He: I……! I’m……… (He can’t even have a normal breath after hearing this soaked response from her)

She: Hey, I’m seriously asking you! Do you have any sort of mentality like that to me?

He: Umhhh…! Shall we have a cup of tea from the canteen please?

She: Haha! Why not? Come on dude! 😀

[They came to college canteen and she ordered 2 cups of tea, since Ram was in dreary mood to speak something.]


She: Hey Ram! You didn’t tell me. I don’t have enough time to spare out here. It’s already late now. I have to go back to home soon.

He: Okay! I’m also not interested in continuing this rubbish flirting talks in between us. In fact, I’m truly in love with you, Namitha. I know each and everything about you by observing you for all these days and couldn’t resist myself being without you in my life. This is not just an infatuation, but something which can be comparable with a true love. Trust me dear. 🙂

She: I can understand your feelings, dude! But this is all because of your present age, Ram. Let me think about it in detail and will give you my response as soon as possible. Don’t feel bad even if my response is a negative one for you. Okay?

He: Yeah, take your-own time, Namitha. Don’t hesitate to tell me, even if the response is a negative one.

She: Yeah, sure!


The twist that happens later on their story was, she gives a positive response to our hero and he dated her for the whole 3 years of college life. Later, they got married too. It was after the marriage, some fluctuations stares at their life as some sort of inferiority complexes and voids on their gregarious conditions. And someway, it finally ends up with a divorce though.


“We will not able to love or care about anymore all because of the reason that, our personalities and nature are extremely indifferent to each other”, a wacky explanation from both of them.

This is one among the major harsh fact for those who shifts their dating to a relationship or marriage scheme. This is just a tale, which reveals the rustles aspects in a dating, which gets converted to a  life-time relationships. I couldn’t say that, love marriage is always a failure. Exceptions would be there, but still I have seen a number of my unexpected pals who fell into “Dating–>Marriage” relationship and finally ended up with a break-up (Divorce). The same aspects are occurring in arranged marriages too. But it will be in a different way through reputation, wealth, vocation and all of a family. As the person is supposed to marry a gal will be chosen by his beloved parents or relatives on the basis of culture, background or profession only. Hence, there would occur some mismatches which is a quite natural problem that has to be healed up in arranged marriage nominal.

According to my personal views, whether it’s love or arranged marriage; one must care, support and love his/her partner in the whole-life time with all the incrustations in WEALTH. Wealth in life does not means money or some happy moments only. Life is such a wide journey, where every-one have/has to face some variety of challenges which includes sorrows and irrelevant solvable problems though. What actually matters in a relationship are mutual understandings, adjustments, faith and mutual-trust on each-other. But today, a marriage is something which can be comparable with an INCOMPLETE ungainliness. We are living in a highly individualistic society, where couples are thrown in each other’s company far rather than having close contacts in between them. So a change is must for the better partnership for both these genders in a common relationship.But still, if our instincts is unable to tell us whom would be the right partner, then what could be the situation? We don’t want to leave it to chance. So we try to ensure that the partner is suitable. That’s why we usually try to choose someone with the same interests similar to us, someone from a similar background, someone with the same values, someone with whom have a lot on common. Will that be an apt choice? Anyway, let me conclude this topic with a brilliant quote about ‘RELATIONSHIP’ by one among the world-renowned romantic fiction writer. 🙂

“Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. If the dispositions of the parties are ever so well-known to each other or ever so similar beforehand, it does not advance their felicity in the least. They always continue to grow sufficiently unlike afterwards to have their share of vexation; and it is better to know as little as possible of the defects of the person with whom you are to pass your life.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   Jane Austen

This post has been published in response to “Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage” contest by Indiblogger and Sony Entertainment Television (www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange). Also you can vote for me here. 🙂

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Thanks,
Rahul

Teenage love!

Seems this must be the most apt topic that I can write to any extent. Not only me! For each and every teenager like me would have the same opinion as I expressed above. I’m just 18 years old. I know myself well from the age of 10. It means both physically and mentally,the changes happening over me. It’s a matter of fact that the ludicrous secretion of some hormones resulted in notable changes over my whole body at the age of 14 on-wards. The most weird feeling that I felt was attraction!!Male-Female attraction. Am not sure whether you people are getting bored in reading this interminable spoke outs since all these are just natural facts. Only “Natural Facts” that every one must know. Isn’t it?? 😛 😀

 Let me come to our topic! Before that I would like to tell you one thing. I’m not a perfect person to reveal out heavy didactic about the topic. This is a write up by a 18 years old boy only. But still,I have got my own views and knowledge about the topic with in this age. Not so elaborate,but not simple too it shows.

Friends are always special for every one! 🙂

“A friend in need is a friend indeed”

This quote really matters here. These compelling closeness are the result of unique routes between them during the days or months or years of connections. As an individual,my childhood friends and teenage sweethearts experienced all the wonderful, sadness, boring, and embarrassing moments with eachother that helped to make me who I’m today. Actually my attitude,personality and all depends on my relationship with friends too. I just realized it actually when I become a teenager. 🙂 
When I became a teenager, my parents  regarded these relationships as insignificant. They always got doubted in having close relationship with friends.Especially “Girl Friends”. I don’t know why they people supposed to think so always?? I know,they are now in such a position after having the same past that we people are in right now. But i would like to confess this truth to all parents….!

“A boy and girl can be friends for ever” 🙂 🙂

Even right now,an amazing incident happened at my own home. I was having a bath and my phone rang in between.Mom took the call. It was Silpa,a friend of mine,who called me to en-quire about some exam schedules. When i came back,mom was going on asking me who is this Silpa? Why she called me in this noon time?Bla bla blas……
Still telling you mom! She is my friend. Why you hesitate to believe that?
(In between,it was a harsh decision from my parents that they have restricted night calling with friends.) 

Whether it’s a boy or girl,friendship can’t be regarded or renewed in new meanings. Let me ask you one question! Is a friend as interchangeable as a new toy for an old one or is there more to relationship than that? Why are we so elated to rediscover long-lost friends in our adult years if, as some parents believe, they were so dispensable to us as children????

Here I’m going to reveal out some exceptions. LOL. Parents question the ability of teenagers to know what love is????Yet they accept their teenagers statements:
“I love you, Mom & Dad”
With full appreciation and at face looks. If they accept the truth that teenagers can love their parents truly,then why can’t they also accept that teen romances and all are true love??? 🙂
 
DATING!That’s what going on recently in between the teens. It’s actually meant for some sort of fun in between boy-girl or girl-boy. But i came to know something really interesting that nowadays,a term named dating is also happening in between a boy-boy and girl-girl.So sad. The age of puberty, however has dropped. Whatever the reasons for this, reaching puberty influences the age of first love and first sexual experience. Today’s teenagers date not for mate selection,but for fun!! 

 “Don’t worry! Lovers  are like buses… a new one comes along every ten minutes!” This is what actually a flirting mind is…. I hate this opinion always. No matter what others thinks about me!

Let me conclude it! First love and young love is indeed real love. This does not come along every ten minutes(Specially dedicated this to current teenager thoughts). For some people, it may come only once in a lifetime. 🙂 🙂

Thank you,
Rahul Ashok