Why?



‘Why…?’ is a question that should be asked to yourself more than to others, when it comes to relationships. Actually, being from single to a relationship will always favor such kind of questions in between the partners I guess. It will be “She“, who has much more thoughts about the other in comparing with “him” though. Why does he behave so to me, why not to the other, why he seems to escape from me and such questions have more stronger answers within yourself than in him. I feel that in certain relationships one suffocates the other and derives the pleasure ofย possessing. Possessing in the sense, he should by mine ONLY! And if the other tries to freeย up, there will be more strangling with so many “Why’s“. Sometimes we don’t try to imagine the least about the hell that the other might be going through, when still you got the replies in between. When you should be happy with those responses that you had got, you tend to complain about what you hadn’t?? LOL. ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜› . You question about why he is on Facebook or any other social circle , when she ‘is supposed’ to keep responding to you. Why? Ask yourself. And then your next question would be ‘why he doesn’t tell his problems to me?? :P. This question too is a kind of asserting, that I should know everything about you. It is the other who should choose, the other who has to give response with full heart, the other who has to hear your complaints while he struggles to get to you once he feels at least a bit mentally free.ย 

“Love and friendship isn’t about suffocation, but about setting free and seeing her happiness and gratitude in her freedom in space. That’s all for now from me, this other ‘he’… “

Now, let me tell you about the Insights I own about this ‘Whys’ in between partners! :). I’m gonna name these two partners or lovers as ‘needy‘ and ‘deserved‘! ๐Ÿ˜€ . The two terms ‘needy’ and ‘deserved’ have so much in common and so much in contrast between each other. As we search for word meaning of these two terms, ‘needy’ is “wanting or needing affection, attention, or reassurance, especially to an excessive degree” while the ‘deserved’ is “to be worthy of the merit“. ‘Needy’ is all about the cries while ‘deserved’ is more about ‘merit in silence‘. In life, when it comesย to relationships, the main fault that we commit is the known/unknown ignorance in the proper application of the terms. We just confuse, scramble and get twisted. Just think, you call or message the ‘needy’ ones mostly, when the ‘deserved’ waits for you without demanding. Sometimes you even go for wrong options when you have to pay for a lifetime. For a light example, there will be a lot of love proposals for a girl, when the majority will be needy and a very small minority will be the deserved ones. But what happens the most is opting for the needy, while the deserved walks back. The needy will always cry, demand and seek attention, while the deserved waits. Have a careful selection between them in each of your steps in life. Practice it so well, so that it becomes an unconscious act of yourself. Most importantly, try to be not a ‘needy’, but a ‘deserved’ creature for yourself and for others.
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“There are dimensions for these two terms and the applicability. Try thinking and challenge your thoughts! The terms are actually needy and deserved, in all ways! ;).”

Thanks,
Rahul

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8 thoughts on “Why?

  1. Everyone is in need and deserves love. If one isn’t ready then they feel suffocated. Love is give and take. If one is always giving and the other always taking walk away. There should be balance there should be mutual understanding of each others needs. The why is because I want or don’t wantva relationship. The question should be what do you want.

    • That ‘why’ does shows the extent and depth of the relationship though. It’s a common fact in most of the cases too I guess (still exceptions would be there)! As you told, attitude and mutual understanding between them really matters here in all respects. ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ˜€

  2. I think love should be a give and take for both sides. One can’t be giving all, and one can’t be taking all.. There should be a balance between both of them.. So maybe it won’t be wrong to have both the needy and the deserved in one person no? Anyways, great post rahul! Made me think and realize things, especially about the needy kind of person.. ๐Ÿ™‚

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